stick and stones may break my bones but WORDS will never hurt me.

stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.

i think this proverb is practically utter bullshit.
words certainly does wield a frightening power to hurt anybody.

during a recent holiday outing with my relatives, during dinner, they began to talk about how time has passed, how old they are getting and stuff like that before the discussion turned my younger female cousin, she is 15, who was sitting beside me. her mother lamented on how long her face was and said that she often receive comments that she look like a chinese wawa or doll (that is good right?) my uncle who lived in singapore said that she has certainly grown up and is not as cute as before. okay.......fine. then they turned on me! help!

"she certainly has grown up well. when she was small she wasnt really that pretty you know. absolutely nothing to look at. (add a random hand gesture)"

i admit that i maybe i should not take to heart these words but what would anyone feel when somebody, or worse, a relative says this? maybe people might say that the comment isnt all that bad. it means that you look better now right? yes i know but it still hurts like hell. i am just glad that the younger me never ever knew this. because i am sure that she/me will be utterly sad and devastated. wouldnt you? i feel worse that they said that i look ugly when i was younger, when i was more innocent.

i couldnt say anything and just continued smilling like an idiot. later i told my mom about it cause my parents didnt go for the dinner. she just said forget about it. i tried to but still, i am truly hurt. am i being oversensitive?

i really appreciate a comment another cousin made to me when i told him though. he told me to take it as when i was small i was pretty, but now i am prettier! oh, how i wish that this was the comment that they had wanted to express...

even now as i write this, weeks after the comment was made, it still stings and i hope no one will have to hear such statements about themselves. really, i sincerely hope not, not ever.